For some women, there is the dream of marriage since being young enough to wear a pillowcase on their head. For others, there is a yearning of romantic love and an endless pursuit to find ‘the one’. Liberal women that have said goodbye to traditional ideas of monogamy, instead maintain several lovers. Just as there are many types of women, there are a variety of relationships, all suited to an individual’s needs. Mutually beneficial arrangements are the relationships I would like to explore here.
What is a mutually beneficial arrangement?
The word ‘arrangement’ perhaps suggests something conditional. In some respect this is true, but that doesn’t mean it is of less value to those involved. An arrangement is a predetermined set of expectations for a relationship. Both parties enter the arrangement knowing the roles they have decided to play.
The idea of an arrangement is to allow for an open discussion. Intentions and desires of both the benefactor and his courtesan are addressed in the beginning. Time is invested only after deciding you are suited to one another’s needs.
As the term suggests, the arrangement is intended to be beneficial equally to both parties. It may take time to find one who matches your needs. Once you have, you enter a relationship of complete understanding. Arrangements also have the potential for the same level of intimacy as conventional relationships.
Different types of Arrangements
Just as no individual is a carbon copy of another, no two arrangements are alike. It is between a benefactor and a courtesan to decide the expectations that one another has regarding the arrangement.
Women who prefer to keep company with several men may be more suited to short-term arrangements. People in business frequently travel to various cities/countries. A short-term arrangement will suit those with less time to commit.
Long-term arrangements generally suit those who are looking for a meaningful connection. You perhaps also prefer monogamy and consistency in time spent together. These more involved arrangements often allow for mentorship from the benefactor to guide his courtesan to a successful career.
Intermittent arrangements allow for a carefree time to be spent together. You meet when both parties are available for short periods of time. You have familiarity and ease with each other, and the meetings may be more spontaneous. Perhaps you only meet for vacations and are a welcomed break from the pressures of your everyday lives.
One-off arrangements occur but are not the type of arrangement that I feel can be genuinely beneficial. But again, this is all dependent on what you desire and how you wish to enjoy the experience of mutually beneficial arrangements.
Misconceptions of a mutually beneficial arrangement
To some, they will see mutually beneficial arrangements as a transactional trade of company for money. Not all arrangements have an allowance provided. Arrangements where you meet for vacation often see the benefactor covering travel and expenses to ensure company on his vacation.
In the same way, sex is not always part of an arrangement. Perhaps it is an exchange of mentorship for the benefit of the courtesan at the pleasure of the benefactor. Some people purely wish to help another succeed where they have been so fortunate.
The term ‘arrangement’ over ‘relationship’ leaves some with the opinion that an arrangement is void of emotion. This is not the case. Love perhaps may not develop in all arrangements, but affection, gratitude, respect, and admiration are most certainly present. When you have two people coming together to fulfil the needs of one another, it would be impossible for intimacy not to develop.
The benefits of a mutually beneficial arrangement
It has been my experience that mutually beneficial arrangements have been very honest in communication. The very idea of an arrangement is to outline what you are and are not looking for.
The pressure of expectation and the uncertainty of where the relationship is going tend not to exist in an arrangement. This removes much of the burden of commitment and disappointment of some traditional relationships.
An arrangement can save a considerable amount of time in finding a suiter. The is no courtship where you win over one another by presenting only your best side only to discover you aren’t a match.
This type of dating lifestyle is not going to suit everyone. If you feel it is for you and want to know more, subscribe to our newsletter for an honest portrayal of the life of a modern-day courtesan.